You may recall from the Fatty’s Guide, Part 1 that I was determined to do two things at the music festival.
1. Find the perfect marriage of bohemian and bulge.
2. BE. FREE.
Well, I may or may not have been successful with #1. I’ll let you decide for yourself.
As for #2, MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!
This was a weekend full of music, friends (old and new), laughter, gorgeous landscapes, breath-taking sunsets and going with the flow.
But the best part was what was missing…my inner critic.
Perhaps you also have an inner critic. That voice that says, “you’re too fat to wear that” or tells you to “suck in” every time someone points a camera at you. It’s that annoying, degrading, nagging voice that slowly eats away at your joy and peace.
In the past, I’ve let my inner critic ruin perfectly good vacations…and dates, and concerts, and parties, and family reunions. The list goes on. But after all this time, I’ve learned a few tricks to silencing that bratty naysayer.
For me, it starts with purposing in my mind that I’m going to enjoy myself, period. Regardless of circumstances, regardless of others and especially regardless of that nagging voice, I’m going to have fun. If I make that my main goal, then I find that I’m more conscious of when the nitpicking begins and I’m better able to shut it down.
It also helps to surround yourself with people who love and cherish you just as you are. I’m so grateful to have friends and family who love me for me. They don’t care if I’m wearing makeup or what I look like in a swimsuit. They see through the superficial to the heart and soul of who I am.
Lastly, and maybe most importantly, I have learned to hold on to the good.
We. Must. Hold on to the good.
There is already enough negative in the world. Don’t add to it by dwelling on it and letting it rob you of joy. Instead, hold on to the good. Even if it’s something as simple as “Wow, my hair looks great today!” or “I met some incredible people this weekend!” (both true for me, by the way), any good you can cling to does it’s part to diminish the bad.
Like I said, the goal was to be free and happy…